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Is virginity a binary attribute?

Is virginity a binary attribute? Isn’t it more like a continuous function rather than quantized? Let us say X looks lustily at a woman, he loses 4.35% of his virginity, now he kisses her….another 13.33% of his virginity is lost. Now he does everything on the planet earth relating to sex with her but just does not do that 2 minute thing. Is he a virgin? Or has he already lost [say]93.65% of his virginity? If virginity is a binary attribute then does it mean that by doing everything except that 2 minute thing one is 100% virgin? I mean virginity slowly starts to erode even when the first imaginative fantasy takes root just in the mind.

Take another case. A man and a woman are enclosed in some hypothetical contraption and none can touch each other or see each other. The man is hardened by some injection and through the contraption moves to and fro and copulation is done purely mechanically[nothing except the genitals are exposed in the contraption]. Now how much virginity is lost? 10%? 100%? Of course it is not the same as full fledged sex hence the man and woman are more virgin than the ones who do full fledged sex.

 I mean how much is virginity a function of heart and mind as opposed to just physical function?

There are two questions hidden in this post.
1.Is virginity a binary attribute? Or is it a continuous function?
2.How much weight you would assign to the physical act as opposed to the thing that goes on in the heart and mind during the union for assigning virginity index?

And ofcourse I wouldn’t be asking the ever elusive question. What is virginity? But then you are free to answer it if you want.

Actually, there is an easy answer to all these-“I don’t care”. But let us argue just for the sake of argument if you have nothing else to do.
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I discussed this with people both online and offline. The gist of the inputs I got are these:

1. You have too much time at your hand. Do something worthwhile instead of these nonsensical arguments.
2.Comparison of hunger and sex, and how your hunger goes away only after you have your food and not by touching or smelling it. Hence sex is a 0/1 thing and not something continuous.
3.Some gibberish tangent.
4.Somebody claiming that if virginity is a binary attribute then he definitely is a virgin, even though he did many great things just like the great president of USA Bill Clinton, and technically he didn't have sex and hence a virgin.
5.Some gibberish.
6.Then somebody quoted the dictionary defintion of virginity/virgin.Different dictionaries, different meanings, which might be little to a dry asexual lexicographer but are actually huge differences to normal human beings.
7.Some tangent.
8.Then somebody[me] had fun reaching some absurd and hilarious conclusions taking dictionary defintion[s] of virginity.
9.Red herrings.
10.More red herrings.

Now cutting the crap, my point in very short is this:

When a word is ethically loaded then it should be redefined in a way which elicits just and equitable behaviour towards whoever it is attributed to. The word 'virgin' as it is understood in society with all its premium attached and especially directed at women, is I feel not equitable, just and in the best interest of women and the general sexual health of the society.Hence, the concept of 'virginity' needs a closer examination and perhaps a more healthy defintion.

p/s: Am I a virgin?

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Poem: Winter Kiss

Jugular Vein

You asked me the story
of nearness and love.
You know saccharin of my soul-
you are as near to me
as my neck to the vein jugular.

Or as close as the cloth that hugs your body,
and as close as the tears are to eyes.
So much into me as dreams are in the heart,
and rub me as closely as raindrops falling on earth.

You asked me the story
of essence and substance.
You know greenness of my heart-
you are as much essence to me
as sweetness is to sugar.

Or as essential as heat is to fire
and as enmeshed as water to liquidity.
So much into me as fragrance is to flowers,
and so indistinguishable as peace to shady bowers.

You asked me the story
of annihilation and absoption
You know fire of my body-
you are as much worthy annihilation to me
as dew is to soft morning sun.

Or as absorbed as much as river is into the ocean
and as embedded as soil to the fresh earth.
So much into you as sound is in air,
as much absorbed as my eyes in your stare,
as much entwined as this poetry into your love affair!

Here is another one, i wrote today...some of my poems are a bit dark!

Cigarette

The ember of my cigarette,
as I inhale her and she glows
is closer to me this moment
than you were.

The smoke that seeps in
glowing her heart so bright
as I inhale:
so close,closer to me this moment
than you were.

My lips on her tip
I burn her heart,absorb her
and she so intense
burns mine.

My lips,my mouth inhales her life;
she takes mine in turn,
albeit slowly,but she takes away
in return of hers, as it shortens,
the life of mine.

How I destroy her
seeing the length of her life
shorten with each puff
as I take her in,destroying me.

Annihilation for this love,
this addiction,this expression
of an eager thirst.
this cigarette between my lips
is closer than you were, to me.

Ever!

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